Seminar of August 28, 2003 at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation,141
St., New York, NY 10012
Are You Capable of Being
Just to A Woman?
This is a question Mr. Siegel asked me and one we asked
when he told his consultants he was troubled about an argument he had
his girlfriend Kate Stanley: "It all started when Kate acted displeased
with me and I got angry and yelled, 'What do you want from me!?'"
Consultants. That's a good question.
Do you think
men have liked thinking about what a woman feels, what she's yearning
Men have felt, "If she's got me what else can she want?"
Ray Stankowsky. Yes, I've felt
Con. Something in us thinks it's
paradise to own
a woman have her as an oasis, away from a difficult world. Is
why she was born, to comfort you and in doing so her hopes were
RS. Obviously not. But you just
take it for
Con. Do you think men have felt superior to
their minds are keener?
RS. They say it's a man's world.
Con. What do you think Kate was angry
RS. That I didn't show much
appreciation to her.
wanted to make a woman's discontent smaller than it is, thinking all
needs is a little affection and a lot of attention and everything will
be all right. We asked:
Con. Does she miss something from
you? Does she feel
you want to know her--the Kate of Kate's--what she feels to herself?
Con. Do you think there is something
in terms of
her mind she is hoping to feel and express?
RS. Yes. But I have no idea...I
Con. Is this good news?
RS. It is, because I will try
to explore it
Con. What is Kate trying to get to for her
do you want to be a friend to her there?
RS. Yes, I do.
What Mr. Stankowsky is learning every man has the right
* Name has been changed.